Article by Jae with contribution by guest contributor Tina Su If you had MASSIVE amounts of confidence in yourself, how would your life be different right now? What would be different in your career? How would your relationships change?

No matter who you are, you can build unstoppable confidence.

Building self-confidence is something that most people leave to chance. Many settle for the belief that as you get older you’ll just automatically grow in confidence through “experience.” But waiting for external factors to give you confidence is like building your house on sandy ground. When the flood comes, your house will be washed away and left in ruins.

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Have you ever heard someone speak and felt compelled to soak up every word? You just want to know them, be around them and learn from. That's the mark of a remarkable person. While some people are born with an enigmatic quality, most people become that way willfully. Many highly charismatic, magnetic people didn't get that way by accident. They didn't stumble upon greatness; they became great deliberately. I've learned that there are certain traits that can be studied, practiced and learned that will make you remarkable. But before I get into that, I should warn you that the path of the outstanding man is not the smoothest or most gentle. Timidity and shrinking has no place in the path of greatness. If you're looking for something easy, try your luck on lotto tickets or celebrity impersonation. But if you want to be a real superhero, read on.

Think back to a time when you were talking passionately about something to your friends. Did you notice that all of them gave you their full attention? Recall how you not only commanded attention but you probably spoke confidently, articulately, and with self-assurance in your voice. As image consultants, we spend a lot of time figuring out what makes an individual attractive, charismatic, and influential. Our goal is not just to give you the latest fashion tips, but to give you an honest and holistic picture of what really matters when it comes to self-expression. We’ve found that one of the greatest ways to have a magnetic and attractive personality is to be passionate about something.

What is Passion?

Simply put, it's what you love. It's not what society says you should love. It's not what your friends or family say you should care about. It's what you, at the deepest and most honest part of yourself, love. For example, what I love more than anything is studying style, social dynamics, and the human potential. I'm constantly questioning and testing ways to reach new levels of success in each area, and sharing what I learn with as many people as I can. Almost everything I love to do and talk about has to do with getting me closer to understanding these areas.

My Passionate Friend...

 

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So like thousands of others, you're here to continue building an attractive image... If there's any piece of advice that I would consider a "fundamental law" in terms of building an attractive image, it's this: Never put up a false image. Sounds simple enough. You're probably thinking "duh, no need to read this article." And if this is you, maybe you're right. Maybe you present yourself honestly -- no part is fabricated or false. The "false image" has to be the greatest self-sabotaging agent in terms of attraction. Everything from mistrust from others to women being repelled is rooted in it. On top of the social setbacks, it's responsible for much of the insecurity, sense of inadequacy, and lack of self-esteem one eventually feels. This bullshit is a poison. Yet, all of us have had a taste. It's our go-to medicine when we feel that our core isn't enough. It's our quick fix short-cut when we feel like we can get away with it. The real killer is the fact that NONE OF US will admit it. That's the tricky thing about facades. Your ego will summon an army to defend and rationalize it before surrendering the lie.

What is a false image?

Put simply, a false image is pretending to be something or someone you're not. Put another way, it's a social mask to hide the real you. The image I am talking about is deeper and thicker than the fabric on your back. It is everything that you project with your words, actions, mannerisms, style, lifestyle and more. For example, are you going around telling people you're a total player when the prospect of approaching a cute girl sends chills down your spine? Are you acting like you know everything about stocks when you just started learning about it last week? Have you ever been asked about your past love life and found yourself exaggerating the figures and stories? If you can relate to this, then you know what it feels like to manage a false image. We've all had experiences when we were on the receiving end of such "white lies." If you're like me, you probably smile and keep it to yourself, but inside you can easily read that this guy is just an insecure guy who cares too much about what other people think.