How is Your Vocal Projection?All women want a confident man. One of the surest ways to display confidence is by having a strong, clear voice that isn't afraid of being heard. You don’t have to sound like Barry White or Don LaFontaine (the man who does almost all of movie trailer voices today), but if you have a high pitched voice, it wouldn’t hurt to deepen it a bit more (to sound more masculine and strong), but not so much that it’s obvious you’re trying hard. More importantly though, you should talk in a volume that can move easily across a room, and in a clear tone that everyone can understand. You’d be surprised how many guys have a problem with low volume, mumbling, or being monotone. It's really not an area guys pay attention to or make an effort to fix. Next time you’re in a social setting, look for the guys who have poor vocal projection. Pinpoint what it conveys about that person. Think about this: Would you be attracted to a woman who sounded like a man? In the same way, most women are not going to be attracted to a man who sounds like a woman. What impression would you have of woman you just met if she spoke in a weak voice that you could barely hear? Shy? Insecure? It doesn't matter what you say if people can't hear you! Weak voices can give the impression of fear and anxiety, two impressions you don't want to give.
Why Most People Aren't Loud EnoughMost people speak quietly as a result of being brought up that way. We're told from a young age not to be loud or rude, and respect the people around us. This is fine, but it doesn't help with picking up women. Almost anyone can speak louder. It’s nothing but a mental block that people have, not a physical one. You just have to become more comfortable projecting your voice. When I was first working on my voice, I realized that the only thing holding me back was that I cared what other people thought of me. I worried that other people would listen in on my conversations. But I realized I was just being stupid and paranoid because I would never see these people again - why did it matter if they heard me? It was because I was always taught to be mindful of other people, and so I grew up talking in a "considerate volume." Now if I see that people are listening, I know that they're probably enjoying listening to my conversations anyway because they are chock full of entertainment and insight. Sometimes I catch people listening in and at the same time smiling, laughing, or nodding their head. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you should be running around speaking in a unnecessarily loud volume. The goal is to just have strong voice that the person listening can clearly understand. Do you frequently have people saying, "what?" or asking you to repeat yourself?
In the game of attraction, one of the critical points that separate the master seducers from the average guy is great eye contact. It doesn't matter who you are or how good you are with women, you can reduce blowouts or rejections by having better eye contact skills. ... It has been said that a man's eyes are the gateway to his soul, and by looking into them you can see the strength of his spirit.
What do you think women see when they look into your eyes?Let's find out... The First Test of Strength: When you meet a woman for the first time, you must maintain steady eye contact. An easy way to do this is to focus on just one eye. I usually just take my right eye and look at her right eye. This makes it easier to focus without darting back and forth. When you're at a party and you approach a girl you like, it’s important that you try keep consistent steady eye contact until you see some signs of attraction. This doesn't mean keep your eyes totally glued on hers, but keep your gaze on her as much as possible. Every time you break your eye contact, it gives the woman the opportunity to decide where or not she’ll keep listening or just leave. It’s the same thing when it comes to an aggressive dog -- if you stand firm and look a dog right at his face, the dog will bark, but will not charge you. The dog will recognize that your frame is stronger than his, and will back down. It may even let you pet it. However if you look away or turn away, the dog will often continue it's aggression. The Screening Frame: When you look a woman in the eye while speaking, the woman often feels that you are screening her. This may be subconscious, but it sets off an auto-pilot response to start self-monitoring. This self-monitoring may often show in the form of preening (fixing her hair, touching her face, etc.) Regardless, she will feel like she's put in an intense spotlight, so bright that she can barely pay attention to what you're saying. You notice this a lot when you give women solid eye contact and they utter "what..." followed by a nervous, self-monitoring smile. If you do it right, she'll often feel an momentary surge of inexplicable attraction for you. This is how powerful eye contact is. (You can use eye contact alone without saying anything special and get a woman attracted.) [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZF2Yb1_vcRw[/embed] Notice how Mickey Rourke doesn't take his eyes off Kim Basinger and follows her eyes even as she tries to look away. This is a very seductive technique. He's not glaring at her, but displaying his confidence and interest through his eyes.
"You never get a second chance to make a first impression."
Bad body language displays unattractive traits like weakness, nervousness, neediness, insecurity, discomfort, and submissiveness. Good body language will show alpha male traits and attractive traits like dominance, strength, relaxed confidence, and being at secure with oneself and at ease around a