Monthly Archive for August, 2008

Self Branding

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Jae
on August 29, 2008
in Style Tips
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So much of success in the music industry involves branding, but I like Ne-yo because he has the raw talent to back up the self-marketing.

I want to give you guys some motivation and a short reminder in keeping up your sharpest image at all times.

Let’s get to it.

To a lot of guys, keeping up their image is more work than pleasure. Most guys won’t hesitate to spend 5 hours watching a sports game, but will rationalize themselves out of spending 5  minutes on tidying up their look.

The truth is that we all know how much it does make a difference in our personal and professional lives. But why don’t men care as much as women? Because we don’t have as much social pressure and motivation to do so. I hate to talk about gender stereotypes but it’s true that men are pressured more than women to be the caretakers / head of the household. Men can get by without glamorizing themselves because most men make up for it through giving value in these other ways.

(Cassie)

A gorgeous girl with stellar image walks into a room. Every guy turns to look.

A guy with a killer style walks into a room. Do the women turn to look?

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Taking Off The False Mask

Published
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Jae
on August 22, 2008
in Self-Improvement
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I’m merely remarking on the paradox of asking a masked man…      who he is…

So like thousands of others, you’re here to build an attractive image…

If there’s any piece of advice that I would consider a “fundamental law” in terms of building an attractive image, it’s this:

Never put up a false image.

Sounds simple enough. You’re probably thinking “duh, no need to read this article.” And if this is you, maybe you’re right. Maybe you present yourself honestly — no part is fabricated or false.

The “false image” has to be the greatest self-sabotaging agent in terms of attraction. Everything from mistrust from others to women being repelled is rooted in it. On top of the social setbacks, it’s responsible for much of the insecurity, sense of inadequacy, and lack of self-esteem one eventually feels.

This bullshit is a poison.

Yet, all of us have had a taste. It’s our go-to medicine when we feel that our core isn’t enough. It’s our quick fix short-cut when we feel like we can get away with it. The real killer is the fact that NONE OF US will admit it.

That’s the tricky thing about facades. Your ego will summon an army to defend and rationalize it before surrendering the lie.

What is a false image?

Put simply, a false image is pretending to be something or someone you’re not. Put another way, it’s a social mask to hide your true self.

The image I am talking about is deeper and thicker than the fabric on your back. It is everything that you project with your words, actions, mannerisms, style, lifestyle and more.

For example, are you going around telling people you’re a total player when the prospect of approaching a girl on the street sends chills down your spine? Are you going around telling people you’re a fashionista when you just started developing your style a few weeks ago?

Did you ever get asked about your past love life and exaggerate the figures and stories a little bit? If you can relate to this, then you know what it feels like to manage a false image.

We’ve all had experiences when we were on the receiving end of such “white lies.” If you’re like me, you probably smile and keep it to yourself, but inside you can easily read that this guy is just an insecure guy who cares too much about what other people think.

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