[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6M5C-oKw9k] So much of success in the music industry involves branding, but I like Ne-yo because he has the raw talent to back up the self-marketing. I want to give you guys some motivation and a short reminder in keeping up your sharpest image at all times. Let's get to it. To a lot of guys, keeping up their image is more work than pleasure. Most guys won't hesitate to spend 5 hours watching a sports game, but will rationalize themselves out of spending 5 minutes on tidying up their look. The truth is that we all know how much it does make a difference in our personal and professional lives. But why don't men care as much as women? Because we don't have as much social pressure and motivation to do so. I hate to talk about gender stereotypes but it's true that men are pressured more than women to be the caretakers / head of the household. Men can get by without glamorizing themselves because most men make up for it through giving value in these other ways.
CassieA gorgeous girl with stellar image walks into a room. Every guy turns to look. A guy with a killer style walks into a room. Do the women turn to look?
I'm merely remarking on the paradox of asking a masked man...who he is...So like thousands of others, you're here to continue building an attractive image... If there's any piece of advice that I would consider a "fundamental law" in terms of building an attractive image, it's this: Never put up a false image. Sounds simple enough. You're probably thinking "duh, no need to read this article." And if this is you, maybe you're right. Maybe you present yourself honestly -- no part is fabricated or false. The "false image" has to be the greatest self-sabotaging agent in terms of attraction. Everything from mistrust from others to women being repelled is rooted in it. On top of the social setbacks, it's responsible for much of the insecurity, sense of inadequacy, and lack of self-esteem one eventually feels. This bullshit is a poison. Yet, all of us have had a taste. It's our go-to medicine when we feel that our core isn't enough. It's our quick fix short-cut when we feel like we can get away with it. The real killer is the fact that NONE OF US will admit it. That's the tricky thing about facades. Your ego will summon an army to defend and rationalize it before surrendering the lie.
What is a false image?Put simply, a false image is pretending to be something or someone you're not. Put another way, it's a social mask to hide the real you. The image I am talking about is deeper and thicker than the fabric on your back. It is everything that you project with your words, actions, mannerisms, style, lifestyle and more. For example, are you going around telling people you're a total player when the prospect of approaching a cute girl sends chills down your spine? Are you acting like you know everything about stocks when you just started learning about it last week? Have you ever been asked about your past love life and found yourself exaggerating the figures and stories? If you can relate to this, then you know what it feels like to manage a false image. We've all had experiences when we were on the receiving end of such "white lies." If you're like me, you probably smile and keep it to yourself, but inside you can easily read that this guy is just an insecure guy who cares too much about what other people think.
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTXlWYdodnc] What would your personality be like if you hung around the 300 Spartans? For one, it would probably help eradicate every bit of wuss you have lying around inside. The other day I was thinking about how it's just as important to work on your character as it is to work on your outer appearance, and how at the end of the day, your image is useless if there's no personality behind it to communicate. Then the question arose: what are the most EFFECTIVE ways to build an attractive personality? I'm always working on some part of myself that I want to develop. Currently I'm trying to learn how to become a better storyteller. I wasn't making any progress for awhile but quickly realized that I was taking the wrong approach of trying to learn it all on my own. I didn't know what worked and what didn't, and how I could work on these traits more effectively. Through this process I was reminded that many guys are trying to become a better version of themselves, but are struggling to do so because they are spending too much of their energy reinventing the wheel instead of modeling after those who are already on the ride. Something like storytelling isn't something you can improve at by yourself. Alone, the process can be slow and full of mistakes, but by surrounding yourself with some of the best, you cut down the learning time tremendously by picking up on the crucial principles and details that only experiential success can bring. Basically, you'll be set on the path that guarantees results if you stick to it. All you have to do is follow through.
You become the average of those who you're constantly around.Early today, I was eating breakfast and watching this commercial on television that featured a white girl, an Asian girl, and a black girl. I was busy eating my food and wasn't even watching the screen, but just by listening I could clearly make out which girl was which from their accents. The white girl had a slight New York accent that I made out in a split second (which was easy because I'm from New York), and the Asian girl spoke in a subtle, but distinguishable Asian accent, which I could tell from her slight overcompensation in pronouncing her words. The black girl had an attitude in her voice like she was from the ghetto. This has nothing to do with racial background, but more about where these people grew up. The way they talk might have nothing to do with where they are specifically from either, but the people around them. Most of the time these people have NO idea that they have these accents, but they have them because of the people they surround themselves with. The fastest and most effective way to grow a part of your personality is to surround yourself with people who already have what you want. Have you ever caught yourself acting just like the friends you hang around most? Most of this is subconscious. It might be certain vocabulary you use, the tonality in how you say a word, or even your attitude towards life. When we hang around people long enough, we inevitably move towards similar behaviors, beliefs, and ways of living without even thinking about it. Choose who you surround yourself with carefully, because they could be rubbing off on you, in both beneficial or detrimental ways. We can easily become a sponge that absorbs the behaviors of those we stay in contact with most.
The Mastermind GroupCoined by Napolean Hill, a man who studied thousands of the most successful people in the world and distilled the commonalities into the principles in the book, Think and Grow Rich, the "mastermind group" is a must for anyone serious about growth...
A girl once had me attracted through one quick flash of her smile. Her teeth were so clean and beautiful that I felt like kissing her. It’s not even a weird fetish of mine, it was just a natural response to her healthy and gorgeous smile. I understand that part of it was a psychological response that we humans naturally have towards health indicators. We find a person more attractive when they show signs of good health, and become more unattracted when they show indicators of bad health or disease. For example, some attractive signs of health in women are a healthy smile, silky hair, and smooth clear skin. Unattractive signs would be all the opposites such as yellow teeth, frizzy hair, severe acne, dry wrinkly skin etc. It's pretty awesome that even attraction can be broken down to a science. So this girl who attracted me reminded me how important it is to make sure our smiles are something we take care of. Within our everyday interactions and especially with the opposite sex, our smile is a key component of placing the other person at ease and filling them with good emotions. All this article is meant to do is to remind you to check your teeth in the mirror and see if they need a little bit of touching up. No matter how genuine your smile is, nobody finds a row full of yellowish teeth attractive. It gets pretty distracting when you’re talking to somebody and you feel like you're talking to the Joker. On a side note: Heath's engrossing performance in The Dark Knight makes it one of the best movies I've seen in awhile. Go see it if you haven't!