The right shirt is the cornerstone of a man's wardrobe. After all, men don't have too much choice with clothing. It's mostly a variation of shirts, pants, jackets, etc. It's confusing enough to work with those basics, imagine what women have to deal with... Today we're going to talk about collared shirts and casual ways to wear them. Sometimes a man wants to avoid collared shirts that make him look he just got out of work, and wear them in ways that give him a laid-back aura. Let's get to it.
Short Sleeve Collared ShirtsSurrounded by tees and tank-tops during the warm weather, you can stand out with a bit more class and elegance by opting for a collared short sleeve instead. A short sleeve shirt naturally brings with it a casual aura that long sleeves (even when the sleeves are rolled up) can't match. At the same time, you keep the classic touch of a dress shirt with the collar.
Variegated StripesVariegated stripes are associated with nights out so they're more appropriate for such. Try wearing this Italian-style pattern underneath a blazer or a sweater. Just be careful about wearing it without a blazer in the clubs, because you may look like a carbon copy of many guys there. I love these shirts because the color patterns can take the place of a tie and still pack the same punch. Without the tie, you look more relaxed and ready for some fun, but the shirt still adds an accent to your outfit. In the case that you do plan on wearing a variegated striped shirt with a tie, go with a solid tie to maintain balance. You don't want pattern on pattern - it'll get too busy.
ChecksA gingham shirt is a great way to bring life to a suit. It's also a great choice to wear on top of jeans for a casual date. Heck, it's a lot more interesting than the pinstriped shirt that every other guy is wearing and certainly more interesting than a blue collared shirt. Roll up the sleeves and you're good to go - all style, no fuss.
How is Your Vocal Projection?All women want a confident man. One of the surest ways to display confidence is by having a strong, clear voice that isn't afraid of being heard. You don’t have to sound like Barry White or Don LaFontaine (the man who does almost all of movie trailer voices today), but if you have a high pitched voice, it wouldn’t hurt to deepen it a bit more (to sound more masculine and strong), but not so much that it’s obvious you’re trying hard. More importantly though, you should talk in a volume that can move easily across a room, and in a clear tone that everyone can understand. You’d be surprised how many guys have a problem with low volume, mumbling, or being monotone. It's really not an area guys pay attention to or make an effort to fix. Next time you’re in a social setting, look for the guys who have poor vocal projection. Pinpoint what it conveys about that person. Think about this: Would you be attracted to a woman who sounded like a man? In the same way, most women are not going to be attracted to a man who sounds like a woman. What impression would you have of woman you just met if she spoke in a weak voice that you could barely hear? Shy? Insecure? It doesn't matter what you say if people can't hear you! Weak voices can give the impression of fear and anxiety, two impressions you don't want to give.
Why Most People Aren't Loud EnoughMost people speak quietly as a result of being brought up that way. We're told from a young age not to be loud or rude, and respect the people around us. This is fine, but it doesn't help with picking up women. Almost anyone can speak louder. It’s nothing but a mental block that people have, not a physical one. You just have to become more comfortable projecting your voice. When I was first working on my voice, I realized that the only thing holding me back was that I cared what other people thought of me. I worried that other people would listen in on my conversations. But I realized I was just being stupid and paranoid because I would never see these people again - why did it matter if they heard me? It was because I was always taught to be mindful of other people, and so I grew up talking in a "considerate volume." Now if I see that people are listening, I know that they're probably enjoying listening to my conversations anyway because they are chock full of entertainment and insight. Sometimes I catch people listening in and at the same time smiling, laughing, or nodding their head. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that you should be running around speaking in a unnecessarily loud volume. The goal is to just have strong voice that the person listening can clearly understand. Do you frequently have people saying, "what?" or asking you to repeat yourself?
(Now that's a great fit!)One of the things we discuss inside the Kinowear Bible is the fact that it is nearly impossible to look great if your clothes don't fit properly. One of the most effective ways to improve your image is by taking a long and hard look at the way all of your clothing fit you, and never wearing anything that doesn't fit correctly. Most guys are walking around in ill-fitting clothing, and I'm writing this article to start an awareness campaign. Awareness of what? The "Bad Fit Disease," or "BFD" for short. This is a disease that we need to fight before it turns into a full-fledged epidemic. I'm ruthless about fit when it comes to my clients, because I know how much a difference it makes in a man's image. A great fit that molds to your body can make inexpensive pieces look like designer pieces, and take you from looking like a slob to the well-groomed man. Here is a quick look at some bad fit victims followed by pictures of the cured...
Bad fitBaggy arms, sagging sides, ballooning back - just too much excess fabric. Most guys wear their shirts like this and think it's a pretty good fit. Just because a shirt may fit your neck doesn't mean it fits the rest of your body.
Great FitThis shirt fits his torso—not just his neck. The shirt should be neither too loose nor too tight. It should be just skimming your body. Less excess fabric means that it stays tucked in better and there isn't any bunching around your midsection.
In the game of attraction, one of the critical points that separate the master seducers from the average guy is great eye contact. It doesn't matter who you are or how good you are with women, you can reduce blowouts or rejections by having better eye contact skills. ... It has been said that a man's eyes are the gateway to his soul, and by looking into them you can see the strength of his spirit.
What do you think women see when they look into your eyes?Let's find out... The First Test of Strength: When you meet a woman for the first time, you must maintain steady eye contact. An easy way to do this is to focus on just one eye. I usually just take my right eye and look at her right eye. This makes it easier to focus without darting back and forth. When you're at a party and you approach a girl you like, it’s important that you try keep consistent steady eye contact until you see some signs of attraction. This doesn't mean keep your eyes totally glued on hers, but keep your gaze on her as much as possible. Every time you break your eye contact, it gives the woman the opportunity to decide where or not she’ll keep listening or just leave. It’s the same thing when it comes to an aggressive dog -- if you stand firm and look a dog right at his face, the dog will bark, but will not charge you. The dog will recognize that your frame is stronger than his, and will back down. It may even let you pet it. However if you look away or turn away, the dog will often continue it's aggression. The Screening Frame: When you look a woman in the eye while speaking, the woman often feels that you are screening her. This may be subconscious, but it sets off an auto-pilot response to start self-monitoring. This self-monitoring may often show in the form of preening (fixing her hair, touching her face, etc.) Regardless, she will feel like she's put in an intense spotlight, so bright that she can barely pay attention to what you're saying. You notice this a lot when you give women solid eye contact and they utter "what..." followed by a nervous, self-monitoring smile. If you do it right, she'll often feel an momentary surge of inexplicable attraction for you. This is how powerful eye contact is. (You can use eye contact alone without saying anything special and get a woman attracted.) [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZF2Yb1_vcRw[/embed] Notice how Mickey Rourke doesn't take his eyes off Kim Basinger and follows her eyes even as she tries to look away. This is a very seductive technique. He's not glaring at her, but displaying his confidence and interest through his eyes.
"You never get a second chance to make a first impression."